Confessions of a Bored Bedroom

“We Still Loved Each Other… But the Bedroom Was Boring”

If this feels a little close to home, then I'm sorry, but not really, because I think this type of thing needs to be talked about more. Even if you can't always talk about it with your partner.

Let's start from the beginning of when I noticed something was shifting... 

I love my partner, and that’s never been the problem. I love that we laugh, we share dumb memes with each other, we still kiss, and we are overall a great team.

But what about the bedroom? That's when it started feeling like a place to sleep AND only sleep.

"Goodnight, I love you."
Same routine. Same kiss.
But no soft touch. No spark.
No quiet, breathing-together kind of intimacy.

Just two people co-existing between loads of laundry and doom scrolling.

It wasn’t that we didn’t care. It just stopped seeming fun, even though deep down inside, we both know it is once we get down to it. I think we both felt too embarrassed to bring it up at that point. 

When You Start Avoiding the Bedroom

I just felt tired. Or awkward. Or guilty for not wanting to “make a move.”

We weren’t fighting.
We weren’t distant.
We were just… bored.

And no one tells you how to fix that without it turning into some serious, sit-down conversation that makes everyone uncomfortable.

The Turning Point

One night while scrolling, I stumbled on this ad for… Twister bed sheets. An actual game with dots, on actual bedding, and I felt it was completely ridiculous, but I laughed. Hard.

Something about it felt lighthearted and almost a little rebellious in the middle of our very responsible life.

We Laughed. We Touched. We Forgot to Be Awkward.

So as you can imagine, I bought them here, and the first night we used them, I didn’t know what to expect. I hesitated, then jokingly called out “Right hand, red", and it was game time!

It was a reminder that we’re still us under all the adulting.

Connection Doesn’t Always Need a Conversation

There are lots of ways to reconnect:

  • Going for a walk together without your phones
  • Making breakfast together, just the two of you
  • Making a memory jar and writing one thing each week that made you smile, cry, or laugh
  • Or, yes… climbing into bed on a giant, colorful dot sheet and seeing where the night goes

Sometimes, what we need isn’t a Big Talk.
It’s just one small moment to shake us out of autopilot.

You're not broken. Your relationship isn’t boring.

You're just human and can get stuck in the rhythm. But you can choose to reconnect with touch, with humor, or with any silly little moment that reminds you that:

You don’t just love your person.
You really, truly like them too.

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